Do you ever thought how much average women lifestyle changed in the past 100 years?
Yeah, it's obvious to everyone that in 21st century women have much more choices and opportunities but at the same time, our daily life now is full of stress and worries which weren't important many years ago, especially when I think about managing work and parenting.
First of all, I would like to say I really like my job and I am absolutely sure that the profession I have chosen fits me perfectly. It means I work not only to earn money but also to express myself and my creativity. Honestly, I must admit, my job makes me feel significant and valuable- without it, I quickly get bored and begin questioning myself about the meaning of life and what should I do with it. On the other hand, as full-time working (and freelancing on the side projects) mom I often feel guilty that I am not good enough as a mother (anybody else has this feeling?). Am I spending not enough time with my kids? Maybe I should play more games with them? Maybe I should concentrate more on my duties as a mom? I often questioning myself, ESPECIALLY when I begin comparing myself with other moms I know. Do you need any examples? Oh, no worries, I have them A LOT! It is enough to take only a few from the last week- it made me feel sad when I saw on Insta stories that other moms made gorgeous Gingerbread houses with their kids and I baked only Christmas cookies. Or when my son told me about his classmate, who has his own small Christmas tree and other cute decorations in the kids bedroom while I decorated only a living room (probably cause I worked overtime almost 6 weeks till Christmas).
I can just guess that a lot of us feeling similar and that it's not a good bad habit for our mental health, but... I still do this from time to time and always begin feeling a bad mom due to all these comparisons. The little voice inside pleads me that I am just seeking my dream to become a full-time illustrator, that I am just doing what I love and I can't sacrifice all my dreams cause if I will stop, leave my dreams away, and concentrate ONLY on my family, sooner or later I will begin feeling unhappy and depressed. Moreover, when I feel inspired I just can't stop myself and feel a huge satisfaction when the new beautiful project borns- doesn't matter, it's a whole branding campaign, greeting card design, or just beautiful illustration, which looks meaningful to me.
In fact, I even read once that mothers with jobs tend to be healthier and happier than moms who stay at home during their children’s infancy and pre-school years, according to a study published by the American Psychological Association.
But the little gnome inside me often brawls at me (I could even say it has my mom's voice) that I am just searching for excuses for being selfish. So, I am still often asking myself a question: is it really possible for a woman to effectively handle both responsibilities simultaneously, and is being a working mother is a smart lifestyle choice?
What do you think about it?
s it possible for a woman to effectively handle both responsibilities simultaneously, and is being a working mother a smart lifestyle choice?
s it possible for a woman to effectively handle both responsibilities simultaneously, and is being a working mother a smart lifestyle choice?s it possible for a woman to effectively handle both responsibilities simultaneously, and is being a working mother a smart lifestyle choice?